{"id":2870,"date":"2025-10-18T10:20:02","date_gmt":"2025-10-18T10:20:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hsvbuddies.com\/blog\/?p=2870"},"modified":"2026-02-26T11:39:10","modified_gmt":"2026-02-26T11:39:10","slug":"my-ex-gave-me-herpes-heal-cope-move-forward","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hsvbuddies.com\/blog\/my-ex-gave-me-herpes-heal-cope-move-forward\/","title":{"rendered":"My Ex Gave Me Herpes: How to Heal, Cope &#038; Move Forward"},"content":{"rendered":"<p data-start=\"58\" data-end=\"319\">Finding out that your ex gave you herpes can feel devastating. You may be dealing with shock, anger, betrayal, shame, anxiety, or deep sadness sometimes all at once. It can feel unfair. It can feel isolating and It can feel like your future has suddenly changed.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"321\" data-end=\"335\">Take a breath.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"337\" data-end=\"446\">Herpes is common. It is manageable. And it does not define your worth, desirability, or future relationships.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"448\" data-end=\"578\">This guide walks you through emotional recovery, medical facts, disclosure conversations, and how to move forward with confidence.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"448\" data-end=\"578\">Read more: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.positivesingles.com\/std-dating-blog\/sti-risk-during-menstruation-is-period-sex-safe\"><strong>STI Risk During Menstruation: Is Period Sex Really Safe?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Understanding Herpes: Facts Over Fear<\/h2>\n<p data-start=\"669\" data-end=\"755\">Herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV), which exists in two primary types:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"757\" data-end=\"908\">\n<li data-start=\"757\" data-end=\"855\">\n<p data-start=\"759\" data-end=\"855\"><strong data-start=\"759\" data-end=\"768\">HSV-1<\/strong>: Often associated with oral herpes (cold sores), but it can also cause genital herpes.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"856\" data-end=\"908\">\n<p data-start=\"858\" data-end=\"908\"><strong data-start=\"858\" data-end=\"867\">HSV-2<\/strong>: More commonly linked to genital herpes.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"910\" data-end=\"1087\">According to the <span class=\"hover:entity-accent entity-underline inline cursor-pointer align-baseline\"><span class=\"whitespace-normal\">Centers for Disease Control and Prevention<\/span><\/span>, herpes is extremely widespread. Many people who carry the virus do not realize it because symptoms can be mild or absent.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1089\" data-end=\"1222\">The <span class=\"hover:entity-accent entity-underline inline cursor-pointer align-baseline\"><span class=\"whitespace-normal\">World Health Organization<\/span><\/span> reports that billions of people globally carry HSV-1, and hundreds of millions carry HSV-2.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1224\" data-end=\"1244\">Important realities:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"1246\" data-end=\"1448\">\n<li data-start=\"1246\" data-end=\"1318\">\n<p data-start=\"1248\" data-end=\"1318\">Transmission can happen without visible sores (asymptomatic shedding).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"1319\" data-end=\"1360\">\n<p data-start=\"1321\" data-end=\"1360\">Many people pass the virus unknowingly.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"1361\" data-end=\"1448\">\n<p data-start=\"1363\" data-end=\"1448\">Standard STI panels do not always include herpes testing unless symptoms are present.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"1450\" data-end=\"1512\">Understanding the science helps remove unnecessary self-blame.<\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"1519\" data-end=\"1568\">The Emotional Impact of \u201cMy Ex Gave Me Herpes\u201d<\/h2>\n<div class=\"no-scrollbar flex min-h-36 flex-nowrap gap-0.5 overflow-auto sm:gap-1 sm:overflow-hidden xl:min-h-44 mt-1 mb-5 [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:mt-4\">\n<div class=\"border-token-border-default relative w-32 shrink-0 overflow-hidden rounded-xl border-[0.5px] md:shrink max-h-64 sm:w-[calc((100%-0.5rem)\/3)]\">When you believe your ex transmitted herpes to you, emotions can feel intense and layered.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3 data-start=\"1704\" data-end=\"1715\">Anger<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"1716\" data-end=\"1732\">You might think:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"1733\" data-end=\"1799\">\n<li data-start=\"1733\" data-end=\"1761\">\n<p data-start=\"1735\" data-end=\"1761\">\u201cWhy didn\u2019t they tell me?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"1762\" data-end=\"1780\">\n<p data-start=\"1764\" data-end=\"1780\">\u201cDid they know?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"1781\" data-end=\"1799\">\n<p data-start=\"1783\" data-end=\"1799\">\u201cWas I lied to?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 data-start=\"1801\" data-end=\"1815\">Betrayal<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"1816\" data-end=\"1878\">Trust can feel broken \u2014 both in them and in your own judgment.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"1880\" data-end=\"1891\">Shame<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"1892\" data-end=\"1979\">Even though herpes is common, stigma can trigger embarrassment or harsh self-criticism.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"1981\" data-end=\"1991\">Fear<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"1992\" data-end=\"2060\">Questions about dating, intimacy, and rejection may surface quickly.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2062\" data-end=\"2096\">All of these reactions are normal.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"2098\" data-end=\"2119\">Healthy coping tools:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2121\" data-end=\"2318\">\n<li data-start=\"2121\" data-end=\"2154\">\n<p data-start=\"2123\" data-end=\"2154\">Journal your thoughts honestly.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2155\" data-end=\"2184\">\n<p data-start=\"2157\" data-end=\"2184\">Talk with a trusted friend.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2185\" data-end=\"2260\">\n<p data-start=\"2187\" data-end=\"2260\">Consider therapy, especially someone experienced in sexual health topics.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2261\" data-end=\"2318\">\n<p data-start=\"2263\" data-end=\"2318\">Join supportive communities for people living with HSV.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"2320\" data-end=\"2422\">Emotional healing starts with allowing yourself to feel \u2014 without judging yourself for those feelings.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"2424\" data-end=\"2427\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"2429\" data-end=\"2466\">Taking Back Control of Your Health<\/h2>\n<div class=\"no-scrollbar flex min-h-36 flex-nowrap gap-0.5 overflow-auto sm:gap-1 sm:overflow-hidden xl:min-h-44 mt-1 mb-5 [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:mt-4\">\n<div class=\"border-token-border-default relative w-32 shrink-0 overflow-hidden rounded-xl border-[0.5px] md:shrink max-h-64 sm:w-[calc((100%-0.5rem)\/3)]\">The medical outlook for herpes is reassuring.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p data-start=\"2557\" data-end=\"2632\">Antiviral medications such as acyclovir, valacyclovir, and famciclovir can:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2634\" data-end=\"2752\">\n<li data-start=\"2634\" data-end=\"2655\">\n<p data-start=\"2636\" data-end=\"2655\">Shorten outbreaks<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2656\" data-end=\"2683\">\n<p data-start=\"2658\" data-end=\"2683\">Reduce symptom severity<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2684\" data-end=\"2717\">\n<p data-start=\"2686\" data-end=\"2717\">Decrease recurrence frequency<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2718\" data-end=\"2752\">\n<p data-start=\"2720\" data-end=\"2752\">Lower the risk of transmission<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"2754\" data-end=\"2786\">There are two common approaches:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2788\" data-end=\"2950\">\n<li data-start=\"2788\" data-end=\"2842\">\n<p data-start=\"2790\" data-end=\"2842\"><strong data-start=\"2790\" data-end=\"2810\">Episodic therapy<\/strong> \u2014 medication during outbreaks<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2843\" data-end=\"2950\">\n<p data-start=\"2845\" data-end=\"2950\"><strong data-start=\"2845\" data-end=\"2874\">Daily suppressive therapy<\/strong> \u2014 medication taken consistently to reduce outbreaks and transmission risk<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"2952\" data-end=\"2984\">Lifestyle factors can also help:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2986\" data-end=\"3121\">\n<li data-start=\"2986\" data-end=\"3005\">\n<p data-start=\"2988\" data-end=\"3005\">Managing stress<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3006\" data-end=\"3032\">\n<p data-start=\"3008\" data-end=\"3032\">Getting adequate sleep<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3033\" data-end=\"3058\">\n<p data-start=\"3035\" data-end=\"3058\">Eating balanced meals<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3059\" data-end=\"3092\">\n<p data-start=\"3061\" data-end=\"3092\">Identifying personal triggers<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3093\" data-end=\"3121\">\n<p data-start=\"3095\" data-end=\"3121\">Supporting immune health<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"3123\" data-end=\"3192\">For many people, outbreaks become less frequent and milder over time.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"3194\" data-end=\"3197\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"3199\" data-end=\"3239\">Talking to Your Ex (If You Choose To)<\/h2>\n<p data-start=\"3241\" data-end=\"3281\">Before contacting your ex, ask yourself:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"3283\" data-end=\"3402\">\n<li data-start=\"3283\" data-end=\"3314\">\n<p data-start=\"3285\" data-end=\"3314\">What outcome am I hoping for?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3315\" data-end=\"3356\">\n<p data-start=\"3317\" data-end=\"3356\">Will this conversation help my healing?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3357\" data-end=\"3402\">\n<p data-start=\"3359\" data-end=\"3402\">Am I emotionally prepared for any response?<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"3404\" data-end=\"3426\">It\u2019s possible your ex:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"3427\" data-end=\"3524\">\n<li data-start=\"3427\" data-end=\"3456\">\n<p data-start=\"3429\" data-end=\"3456\">Did not know their status<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3457\" data-end=\"3492\">\n<p data-start=\"3459\" data-end=\"3492\">Had symptoms they misunderstood<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"3493\" data-end=\"3524\">\n<p data-start=\"3495\" data-end=\"3524\">Avoided testing due to fear<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"3526\" data-end=\"3581\">If you decide to communicate, keep it calm and factual:<\/p>\n<blockquote data-start=\"3583\" data-end=\"3744\">\n<p data-start=\"3585\" data-end=\"3744\">\u201cI tested positive for herpes recently. I wanted to let you know so you can consider testing. I also need clarity about whether you were aware of your status.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p data-start=\"3746\" data-end=\"3877\">Protect your peace. Closure does not always come from their explanation. Sometimes closure is choosing forward movement without it.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"3879\" data-end=\"3882\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"3884\" data-end=\"3924\">Supportive Herpes Disclosure Script<\/h2>\n<div class=\"no-scrollbar flex min-h-36 flex-nowrap gap-0.5 overflow-auto sm:gap-1 sm:overflow-hidden xl:min-h-44 mt-1 mb-5 [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:mt-4\">\n<div>Disclosure can feel intimidating, but it is also empowering. You are sharing information responsibly \u2014 not confessing wrongdoing.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3 data-start=\"4099\" data-end=\"4122\">Before You Disclose<\/h3>\n<ul data-start=\"4124\" data-end=\"4294\">\n<li data-start=\"4124\" data-end=\"4157\">\n<p data-start=\"4126\" data-end=\"4157\">Choose a calm, private setting.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"4158\" data-end=\"4198\">\n<p data-start=\"4160\" data-end=\"4198\">Have the conversation before intimacy.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"4199\" data-end=\"4249\">\n<p data-start=\"4201\" data-end=\"4249\">Stay informed about transmission and prevention.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"4250\" data-end=\"4294\">\n<p data-start=\"4252\" data-end=\"4294\">Approach the conversation with confidence.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr data-start=\"4296\" data-end=\"4299\" \/>\n<h3 data-start=\"4301\" data-end=\"4336\">Script Option 1: Direct &amp; Clear<\/h3>\n<blockquote data-start=\"4338\" data-end=\"4694\">\n<p data-start=\"4340\" data-end=\"4694\">\u201cI really like where this is going, and before we become intimate, I want to share something important. I have genital herpes. It\u2019s very common and manageable. I take medication to reduce the risk of transmission and pay attention to symptoms. I care about honesty and giving you the chance to make informed decisions. I\u2019m happy to answer any questions.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<hr data-start=\"4696\" data-end=\"4699\" \/>\n<h3 data-start=\"4701\" data-end=\"4739\">Script Option 2: Warm &amp; Reassuring<\/h3>\n<blockquote data-start=\"4741\" data-end=\"5009\">\n<p data-start=\"4743\" data-end=\"5009\">\u201cI value transparency, especially with someone I\u2019m interested in. I was diagnosed with herpes some time ago. It\u2019s something I manage responsibly, and it doesn\u2019t interfere much with my life. I understand this may be new information, and I\u2019m open to talking about it.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<hr data-start=\"5011\" data-end=\"5014\" \/>\n<h3 data-start=\"5016\" data-end=\"5051\">If They Ask Difficult Questions<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"5053\" data-end=\"5076\">You can calmly explain:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"5078\" data-end=\"5248\">\n<li data-start=\"5078\" data-end=\"5102\">\n<p data-start=\"5080\" data-end=\"5102\">Herpes is very common.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"5103\" data-end=\"5183\">\n<p data-start=\"5105\" data-end=\"5183\">Transmission risk can be reduced significantly with medication and protection.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"5184\" data-end=\"5248\">\n<p data-start=\"5186\" data-end=\"5248\">Many couples successfully navigate mixed-status relationships.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"5250\" data-end=\"5310\">Confidence often shapes the tone of the entire conversation.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"5312\" data-end=\"5315\" \/>\n<h3 data-start=\"5317\" data-end=\"5345\">If They React Negatively<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"5347\" data-end=\"5434\">Not everyone will respond maturely. That is about their comfort level \u2014 not your value.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"5436\" data-end=\"5456\">A grounded response:<\/p>\n<blockquote data-start=\"5458\" data-end=\"5550\">\n<p data-start=\"5460\" data-end=\"5550\">\u201cI understand if this isn\u2019t something you\u2019re comfortable with. I appreciate your honesty.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p data-start=\"5552\" data-end=\"5587\">Then continue forward with dignity.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"5589\" data-end=\"5592\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"5594\" data-end=\"5634\">FAQs for Newly Diagnosed Individuals<\/h2>\n<div class=\"no-scrollbar flex min-h-36 flex-nowrap gap-0.5 overflow-auto sm:gap-1 sm:overflow-hidden xl:min-h-44 mt-1 mb-5 [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:mt-4\">\n<h3 class=\"border-token-border-default relative w-32 shrink-0 overflow-hidden rounded-xl border-[0.5px] md:shrink max-h-64 sm:w-[calc((100%-0.5rem)\/3)]\">Is my romantic life over?<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<p data-start=\"5709\" data-end=\"5839\">No. Many people with herpes date, marry, and build families. The diagnosis feels overwhelming at first, but it becomes manageable.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"5846\" data-end=\"5871\">How common is herpes?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"5873\" data-end=\"5969\">Extremely common worldwide. A significant portion of adults carry HSV, often without knowing it.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"5976\" data-end=\"6008\">Will outbreaks last forever?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6010\" data-end=\"6125\">Outbreak frequency typically decreases over time. Some people experience very few recurrences after the first year.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"6132\" data-end=\"6172\">Can I still have a healthy sex life?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6174\" data-end=\"6178\">Yes.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"6180\" data-end=\"6186\">Using:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"6187\" data-end=\"6262\">\n<li data-start=\"6187\" data-end=\"6211\">\n<p data-start=\"6189\" data-end=\"6211\">Antiviral medication<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"6212\" data-end=\"6223\">\n<p data-start=\"6214\" data-end=\"6223\">Condoms<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"6224\" data-end=\"6262\">\n<p data-start=\"6226\" data-end=\"6262\">Avoiding intimacy during outbreaks<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"6264\" data-end=\"6298\">greatly reduces transmission risk.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"6305\" data-end=\"6336\">Can I have children safely?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6338\" data-end=\"6480\">Yes. Healthcare providers routinely manage HSV during pregnancy to reduce risks. Many parents with herpes have healthy pregnancies and babies.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"6487\" data-end=\"6521\">Should I inform past partners?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6523\" data-end=\"6629\">If recent exposure may have occurred, informing them allows them to monitor symptoms and consider testing.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"6636\" data-end=\"6663\">How do I handle stigma?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6665\" data-end=\"6753\">Education reduces fear. The more informed you are, the less power stigma holds over you.<\/p>\n<h3 data-start=\"6760\" data-end=\"6793\">Will someone truly accept me?<\/h3>\n<p data-start=\"6795\" data-end=\"6903\">Yes. Many people prioritize honesty, connection, and emotional maturity over a manageable medical condition.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"6905\" data-end=\"6908\" \/>\n<p data-start=\"6910\" data-end=\"6947\">Read more :\u00a0 <a href=\"\/blog\/share-herpes-journey-social-media\/\"><strong>The Right Way to Share Your Herpes Journey on Social Media<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"6910\" data-end=\"6947\">Rebuilding Confidence &amp; Self-Worth<\/h2>\n<div class=\"no-scrollbar flex min-h-36 flex-nowrap gap-0.5 overflow-auto sm:gap-1 sm:overflow-hidden xl:min-h-44 mt-1 mb-5 [&amp;:not(:first-child)]:mt-4\">\n<div class=\"border-token-border-default relative w-32 shrink-0 overflow-hidden rounded-xl border-[0.5px] md:shrink max-h-64 sm:w-[calc((100%-0.5rem)\/3)]\">This experience can strengthen you in unexpected ways.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p data-start=\"7047\" data-end=\"7062\">You may become:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"7064\" data-end=\"7190\">\n<li data-start=\"7064\" data-end=\"7099\">\n<p data-start=\"7066\" data-end=\"7099\">More intentional about partners<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7100\" data-end=\"7128\">\n<p data-start=\"7102\" data-end=\"7128\">Clearer about boundaries<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7129\" data-end=\"7158\">\n<p data-start=\"7131\" data-end=\"7158\">Stronger in communication<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7159\" data-end=\"7190\">\n<p data-start=\"7161\" data-end=\"7190\">Less tolerant of dishonesty<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"7192\" data-end=\"7214\">Confidence grows from:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"7216\" data-end=\"7364\">\n<li data-start=\"7216\" data-end=\"7245\">\n<p data-start=\"7218\" data-end=\"7245\">Understanding your health<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7246\" data-end=\"7285\">\n<p data-start=\"7248\" data-end=\"7285\">Practicing disclosure conversations<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7286\" data-end=\"7323\">\n<p data-start=\"7288\" data-end=\"7323\">Experiencing supportive responses<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7324\" data-end=\"7364\">\n<p data-start=\"7326\" data-end=\"7364\">Realizing your value has not changed<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr data-start=\"7366\" data-end=\"7369\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"7371\" data-end=\"7407\">Mental Health &amp; Long-Term Healing<\/h2>\n<p data-start=\"7409\" data-end=\"7427\">If you experience:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"7429\" data-end=\"7511\">\n<li data-start=\"7429\" data-end=\"7451\">\n<p data-start=\"7431\" data-end=\"7451\">Persistent anxiety<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7452\" data-end=\"7466\">\n<p data-start=\"7454\" data-end=\"7466\">Depression<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7467\" data-end=\"7488\">\n<p data-start=\"7469\" data-end=\"7488\">Social withdrawal<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7489\" data-end=\"7511\">\n<p data-start=\"7491\" data-end=\"7511\">Obsessive thoughts<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"7513\" data-end=\"7607\">Consider professional support. Therapy can help process betrayal, stigma, and identity shifts.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"7609\" data-end=\"7646\">You do not have to handle this alone.<\/p>\n<hr data-start=\"7648\" data-end=\"7651\" \/>\n<h2 data-start=\"7653\" data-end=\"7670\">Moving Forward<\/h2>\n<p data-start=\"7672\" data-end=\"7741\">Right now, this diagnosis may feel overwhelming. But months from now:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"7743\" data-end=\"7907\">\n<li data-start=\"7743\" data-end=\"7773\">\n<p data-start=\"7745\" data-end=\"7773\">Outbreaks may be infrequent.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7774\" data-end=\"7804\">\n<p data-start=\"7776\" data-end=\"7804\">Disclosure may feel natural.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7805\" data-end=\"7837\">\n<p data-start=\"7807\" data-end=\"7837\">Dating may feel hopeful again.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"7838\" data-end=\"7907\">\n<p data-start=\"7840\" data-end=\"7907\">This may feel like one small part of your story \u2014 not the headline.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"7909\" data-end=\"8018\">Herpes is a medical condition. It is not a character flaw. It is not a punishment and It is not the end of love.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"8020\" data-end=\"8034\">You are still:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"8036\" data-end=\"8130\">\n<li data-start=\"8036\" data-end=\"8049\">\n<p data-start=\"8038\" data-end=\"8049\">Desirable<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"8050\" data-end=\"8060\">\n<p data-start=\"8052\" data-end=\"8060\">Worthy<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"8061\" data-end=\"8091\">\n<p data-start=\"8063\" data-end=\"8091\">Capable of deep connection<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"8092\" data-end=\"8130\">\n<p data-start=\"8094\" data-end=\"8130\">Fully deserving of a joyful future<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"8132\" data-end=\"8230\" data-is-last-node=\"\" data-is-only-node=\"\">Healing takes time. But you will move forward \u2014 stronger, wiser, and more intentional than before.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Finding out that your ex gave you herpes can feel devastating. 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